Thursday, October 09, 2014

想到什么写什么

王安石在《游褒禅山记》写了这样的一段话,

“然力足以至焉,于人为可讥,而在己有悔;尽吾志也而不能至者,可以无悔矣,其孰能讥之乎?此余之所得也。”


简单来说就是自己力量足以达到的目标(却未能达到),在别人看来是可以讥笑的,而自己也有悔恨;尽自己所能而未能达到的,便可以无所悔恨,谁能够讥笑?这是我尽自己努力所得到的。

看起来很励志。
对啊,如果我做得到却没尽力,那的确可笑,并且自己也会心存悔恨。
但是如果我已经尽力了,自己心中无悔,谁能笑我?这是我凭自己努力所得来的。


现实中真的如此吗?
对着那么多的不可得,也不是每一个,都能那么轻轻松松地就释怀。
我又不是圣人,也不是佛,自然还没有达到可以看破红尘的地步。
我只是个普通人。


尽过全力却得不到的,有时候还是会心存遗憾悔恨,但是只能一直告诉自己,我不想要。
小时候长辈会说你听话,懂事。
然后你就被这种标签束缚了,短则几年,长则一辈子。


因为不想让谁觉得负担,所以想要什么很多时候也不会直说,除非对方先开口。
这是从小在大人之间察言观色,所形成的性格。
因为不想被觉得是个包袱,不想被嫌弃,所以我尽力扮演好他们喜欢的“懂事”的角色。
如果我的“懂事”能够让别人多少有点喜欢我,那也不枉费我一番努力。


我觉得我的人生现在算是挺自由的,很大一部分都是拜那个标签所赐。
如果不是因为这个标签,现在怎么可能想去哪里就去哪里,不想做什么就不做什么。
它曾经是个枷锁、桎梏,现在已经成为了我的一部分,融入血骨,无法分割。
现在让我抛弃这样的标签已经是不可能的了。
这算是一种自我的认同,少数能够让我找到自己定位的东西。


我有很多的执念,因而有很多的不可得。
佛学里说的“物执”与“我执”我当然都有。
但我觉得于我而言,我只要学会释怀就好,无需看破。
因为人生如果没有了奋斗的目标,我也找不到生存的意义。
不可得,之所以会成为不可得,不就是因为它曾经是你想要的,曾经是你奋斗的目标,而你最终却没有办法得到的。


物质上的不可得,我还能释怀。
如果哪一天,哪个人或是哪种感情成为了我的不可得,那才是我真正害怕的。
人心难测,海水难量。
所有有关于人心的,都是我真正害怕去面对、猜测与摸索的。



随记

最近一段时间,看到了觉得挺喜欢的一句话:

“明明他没有长成你爱的样子,你却觉得找到了一直想要的那个人。”


这让我想到了《我可能不会爱你》里,程又青的爸爸说的那句话,“Timing is everything”

这句话我还满赞同的,不管做什么事情,Timing真的很重要。



电影《Casablanca》里有这样一句台词,
“Of all the gin joints in all the towns in all the world, she walks into mine.”
全世界有这么多城市,城市里有这么多酒吧,可她却偏偏来到我的酒吧。



你看,这也是Timing问题。

全世界有那么多人,那么多地方,我偏偏在那个时间,那个地点,遇见这样一个人。



有些事情看似简单,却有多少人求之而不得。





Saturday, May 31, 2014

一年又一年

距离上一次更新,又一年了。

去年更新的时候刚考完A-level,现在刚考完LL.B Intermediate Year的考试一个星期多。

5月26日,考完试的第4天,见了很久不见的好朋友,花了一个下午把自己吃得很饱,说了很多废话,但是很满足。虽然我这个人比较喜欢安静地躲在房间里,但是偶尔有人聊聊天其实很不错,前提是聊天的对象是个可以交心的朋友。

5月27日,踏上临时决定的KLIA2之旅。一开始纯粹是想要参观一下新的机场,早上大约十一点到达,然后各种走各种逛,一直在2、2M和3楼徘徊兼溜达,研究一下商店,看一看格局。中午吃了午餐过后开始觉得太无聊了,于是乎更加临时地决定开车去Gold Coast。

打开了Waze查了一下,大概需要35-40分钟到达,不远不近。决定开车去海边的时候其实已经下午三点了,但一行四个人在花不花这40分钟的问题上却没考虑多久,10分钟左右就决定去了。下到2楼的超市买了饮料,回到7楼缴停车费,然后就直接出发。

一路上看到很多飞机飞过,跟着路牌和指示牌慢慢地往海边前进,才发现本来以为应该是一条大路即可直通的著名海滩,其实还要经过很多“九曲十三弯”越开越小的路才能到达。一晚上没睡,但是去的路上却精神得很,不只是因为期待,更因为需要睁大眼睛看路牌……*笑*

开了大概40分钟终于到达,但其实跟我想的有点差别。Resort的位置反而稍微偏僻,因为不是周末假期的关系,周围几乎没有车辆,人也不多。四个人城市人跟疯子一样,一踏进海滩就开始拿着手机和单反相机拼命拍照,仿佛从未见过大自然似的。(其实也差不多了,读书+考试天天闷在吉隆坡)

本来以为会花上很多时间在海滩,甚至会待到夕阳西下的时候才要回家,但是计划赶不上变化,几个熊孩子在我们拍照的时候跑过来稍微骚扰了一下。本以为他们只是因为贪玩,所以一开始也不以为意,但是过了不久这几个人就越来越过分了。在忽然看到他们几个捏着一团一团的湿沙子往我朋友脚边扔的时候,我就出声建议把东西都拎着,到远一点的地方坐下吧。谁知道边走边回头,看到他们几个还在跟着我们,他们的父亲(或男性长辈)在远处观望也不制止。四个女生为了安全考量,最后还是决定离开海滩,往路边的人行道上走。

接近5点的时候离开了海边,踏上返回吉隆坡的路。像是没有尽头的高速公路开始让本来就已经一晚上没睡的我昏昏欲睡,抱着特意带上车的玩偶抱枕开始小睡,偶尔醒来跟车上的人搭搭话,顺便让开车的朋友保持清醒。就这样开着开着,遇上了下班时间的车龙,一直到晚上7点半才到达市中心的商场吃晚饭。

玩了一整天其实大家都累了,早上9点多出门,吃完晚饭都已经快9点了,加上坐了大半天的车,身体跟精神其实已经分离了。精神上还是非常兴奋想玩的状态,但是身体已经跟不上了,回家的路上一直在揉眼睛,狂打呵欠。但是生物时钟乱了,就算再累还是没有办法拯救我凌乱的生物时钟。

本来以为早上睡了两个小时,加上前一晚其实只睡了三个小时,回家可以一觉到天明,谁知道9:30到家换了衣服沾床睡的结果也只是睡到凌晨一点多就醒了。累得要命还睡不着,拼命找事情让自己做,终于,凌晨5点多又有了睡意。我的生物时钟再一次出乎意料地凌乱了,本以为会在早上10点左右起床,结果却在下午3点才睡醒。努力了很多天还是拯救不了这个为了考试而调整的睡眠时间,真的要跪了。

接到电话通知,之前寄履历应聘的工作有了消息,通知我6月1日去上班,一共8天。终于找到工作并且非常开心之余,我又开始担心起我的生物时钟。早上11点要上班,请问我要怎么起床?

现在已经是5月31日的凌晨2点多了,坦白说睡眠时间还是一样。我想只能逼我自己睡觉了,一旦有睡意,尽量争取在凌晨3:30之前睡着,不然明天还是会下午2、3点才能起床了。

如果说考前一个月我的睡眠时间像是有时差一样,现在这个不规律的规律应该根本不能算是时差了。刻意一晚上不睡,晚上8点多上床一样睡不了几个小时就会醒,然后天亮才睡得着= = 请问我是吸血鬼吗?囧

P/S:又到端午节了。去年端午前后我在准备A-level考试,今年端午没有考试,只有乱七八糟的睡眠时间,每天累得要命的我,还有即将开始的工作。

兼职的工作时间不错,早上11点到晚上7点,又是在书局里,可能可以带本书去打发时间,或是直接看看书局里的书好了。8天不长,为了我8月的旅费,加油吧!

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

To My Dearest...

10th June 2013, 12pm.
Done with the last paper, Business Studies, and this marks the end of A-level.
Whether or not I am going to pass or retake *touchwood*, it will only be concerned on the 13th August, and till then, I shall take a 1 week short break and continue with LL.B.

3rd January 2012 was the first day of A-level Jan 2012's class, and I can still remember that I know none of you guys except for Carol. (Kinda my luck or something, no matter secondary school or college, always no familiar faces while others are having their old schoolmates and good friends at the beginning).

18 months of journey was indeed not a very long one, but it gave me one of the most amazing experiences in my life, with such a bunch of good friends. For real, this 525 days of journey isn't gonna be this awesome and cool without every single one of you. Thank you guys for marking an awesome full stop for A-level together on 10th June 2013, and we shall look forward to the next chapter in our life together sooner or later.

I can still remember how my secondary schoolmates used to describe me, about the first impression I gave them or when they don't know me well. I am pretty sure that you guys must have thought of words like "cool", "unfriendly" and stuff since these are what I'm always getting. I confess that due to my own character, after 18 months I still don't really know or not really close to each and everyone in our class. To people whom I mentioned below, you guys are close to me or somehow have some connection with me throughout A-level, and therefore I think I should write something for you guys. Even though I may not know each and everyone of you very well, but I will try my best to write.

First of all, I should start with my dear,
Carol Yeoh
Fashion, High Heels, Pink, Bitchiness are basically things you can't live without. XD
We've known each other for 6 years and it's still counting. Even though we weren't that close at the beginning, when we were in Form 2, but I will never forget that on the very first day of you in JIGSS, 2 Bestari, you were sitting right in front of me until I changed to another seat. If you were to tell me when I was in Form 2, that I am gonna be so close with this girl sitting in front of me, going through so much of thick and thin together, I would've told you, this is unbelievable.
I only write letters and cards to close friends, and you are one of ...uhm, maybe out of 3 person. I can never forget that you actually teared after reading the birthday card I wrote to you. I'm always grateful to have you in my life, and you are always being so lovely to me, especially when I bully you.
There are too much to say, too much to tell, that sometimes words seems to be so powerless to describe how I really feel. Thus, I think nothing will be better than, we know it in our mind, how much we love each other as a really important person in life.
My jelly and peanut butter, Love ya lots.

Lee Elaine
Shopaholic, Nail Art, Photogenic, Efficiency.
I don't really remember the date but the day we got close all of a sudden was because of hanging out together at Pavilion after class, and we have been camwhoring too much since then. Thank you and sorry for troubles that I've caused to you that you are always fetching me, to college or hangout.
What impressed me most was your driving pattern,ummmm...kinda shocking sometimes, but I find both of us kind similar in this, that we do swear quite much while driving lolol.
Thank you for always giving special delivery of nice food with love to me. First try of sloppy fries was from you and Carol, when I'm not feeling well that day (kinda weird right, not feeling well but eat fries), and until recently, the super fantastic awesome heavenly elbow. Thanks for coming all the way to my place just to send me food, or even my birthday present.
Even though our characteristics are not really similar, but please remember that our high 5 rate is too damn high. Looking forward for a couple more years with you and see ya in LL.B
Love.

Chan Wey Yin a.k.a Audrey
British accent, Mermaid hair, Dramatic and Weirdness.
I swear I've never met such an awesome person like you because I love your weirdness too muchhhhh. I really missed those days when we used to bully and weird others out randomly, especially Carol *lol*. Class would definitely be so boring without you lol.
The Always Dramatic Audrey, sometimes comes in a package with the British accent (or some other accents or weird German songs). I swear I always think of you whenever I see people drinking English Tea, thinking about your epic pose and the pinky finger.
My Hakka tutor, although what you taught me were words to scold ppl *lol*, but i still appreciate it very much HAHAHAHAHA. UGH I HATE YOU FOR GIVING ME SO MUCH OF WEIRD MEMORIES.
Epic people will still be epic. Let's get the weirdness on throughout Intermediate, and convert it into stronger version when we meet again in class.

Amelia Soo Lyanna
Hugs, Caring, Hyper, IBT.
The forever hyper and mother-like friend of mine. Hugging each other seems like something which just happened very naturally, since we weren't that familiar, till now, when we are already done with this journey. I would like to tell you that this is such a heart warming action, that makes you so special to me. I guess I'm too used to your hyperness, that I will actually feel weird when I see you not in a hyper mode, or with no facial expression.
I will always remember that how you started to talk to me during induction class, when there was only you, Carol and I in the classroom. By the way, your orange cake tasted really good.
It's sad that we are not gonna meet as often as before. I will definitely miss your laughter, hyperness, and warm hugs. Do well in what you want to do, best of luck!

Tam Xin Yan a.k.a Denise
Joyful, Bright, Epic, Partners.
What partners? Skipping classes lah LOL. I can remember the whatsapp messages discussing whether to attend revision classes or not, and in the end we skipped the last week together.
Your new year resolution didn't work, so Carol managed to save herself from shaving bald. On the first induction class for English Literature, there was only you, Vera, Carol  and I. I used to think that both of you are so unapproachable and DAT SMART ASS LOOK (In fact, you are). After I get to know you better, you are just one of the funniest person I've ever met. Those epic facial expressions and words never fail to crack me up.
 Till the day we meet again, please miss me like how I'm gonna miss you in class, even though we can still meet up in college, but it'll never be better than being in the same class. Skip classes lesser, remain you smart-ass brain, and the epicness.
Chibi Maruko fighting!

Vera Chong
Kind, Intelligent, Determined, Gentle.
The first induction class for English Literature actually gave me the chance to take a look at you, since there was only 4 of us in the class. As what I said, you looked unapproachable to me. I sorta not like you at first because of the first impression you gave me, but one thing that I didn't tell was, I actually think we will become good friends in the end, and we really did.
Maybe, studying A-level in ATC was a very difficult process for you to go through, especially Law, when your original intention wasn't to pursue in Arts but Science, but I hope that you did find a lot of joy when you are with us. Now A-level had come to an end, and you finally got a chance to choose what you really want. I am always wishing all the best to you, and I hope you will enjoy your Uni life better after all.
One thing to advice, treat yourself better, especially when you are in a relationship. I am really going to miss you a lot since we are not going to see each other so often anymore.
All the best!

Tan Weiqin a.k.a Vicky
Kelantanese, Optimistic, Compassionate, Naive.
You are my first Kelantanese friend, or maybe first friend from other state. You always look happy and passionate in doing everything, especially when doing something for charity. The optimistic of yours can actually affect everyone around you!
I remember how naive you were (okay la now still quite naive also), that all of us actually taught you some bad things and cuss words unintentionally. I remember how you don't use the word 'bitch', but you are using it too often nowadays HAHAHAHA. I really enjoyed time spent together with you and others, especially when we were doing assignments together in classroom 2J, there comes 'Jay Chou' and CHOW CHOW.
My friend, while making choices concerning your studies, make it for the sake of yourself instead of others in the first place. I know you are straightforward like how I am, but please don't use this in making important decisions. Give yourself a good break, spend more time with your family (I know you miss them very much) and start the new journey with a fresh mind.
Living away from home when you are alone is indeed a very difficult thing to bear with, thank you for being so brave, that I got to meet you in ATC from 2012 to 2013. Hope to see you again, maybe not soon, but someday, in KL or TM. Please don't forget your 'family' in KL, and I wish you all the best in your future.
Love you and miss you.

Rebecca Ong
Innocent, Cute, Bunny*lol*, Petite *lololol*
I remember the first day I saw you in college, I was actually so curious about your age. We weren't really close back then, and even now *lol*. But I feel thankful that you guys will never forget to count me in for any activities, events or plans.
You have that innoncent chubby bunny face that makes ppl wanna pinch your cheek. Even though you are blur sometimes, but that's what makes you so adorable and "bulliable"(in a good way). Don't always say that you are short, YOU ARE PETITE.
Thank you for bringing joy and happiness with all the epic moments and epic pickup lines. Continue to look for hot guys in LL.B, be careful when you are driving (accident with a lorry sounds really major), continue to speak Mandarin with English slang.
Even though we are not close to each other, I still cherish you as one of the awesome bunch of people I love in A-level, as this bunch of people is not gonna be so awesome and epic without the presence of everyone, including you.

Clarissa Lee
Smart, Stylish, Humorous, Meat Lover.
Frankly speaking, you looked so unapproachable when the class first started, because you looked cool when you are not smiling or laughing.
We aren't close to each other either, but we almost became partners to play in ATC Sports Carnival 2013, if only I didn't get injured that time. Although you said never mind, but still, I feel sorry to you.
From what I observed, you used to crack lame jokes, you look bright and approachable when you laugh, you are random sometimes, you observe hot guys in college with Rebecca. Thank you for counting me in whenever you guys are organising activities, or planning trips. Thank you for being one of my awesome classmates, that made these 18 months so memorable and full of epic moments.
Whether you are going to UK or not, wish you all the best. I know you are going to succeed in your future. Best of luck!

Oscar Wong
Helpful, Friendly, Witty, Passionate.
Maybe you forgot this, but I always remember the first time you actually talked to me was in the elevator, you said, "Wassup, LohBoon Goh!". The reason why I remember this isn't because of it's the first real conversation, but the invincible awkwardness after that line. Have I ever told you, that your pickup lines for each conversation are sometimes...horrifying HAHAHAHAHA.
I actually envy your passion towards everything you do, like music, or piloting. It's hard to find people like you nowadays. That makes you cool, and keep it up!
Congratulations that you are finally one step closer to your dream, after so much of efforts. All the best to you in your future, face those challenges with your invincible passion to piloting, and I believe that you are going to succeed.
Don't forget us and remember to keep in touch. Captain wannabe, wish to hear your new and the best pickup line in the future on the airplane, "Hello. This is Captain Oscar Wong."
It's definitely gonna be better than "You look familiar..." or "I have this screwed up friend..." HAHAHAHA. Oh yeah, never use these 2 to the stewardess. *LOL*
Good Luck!

Lok Hon Jet
Polite, Thoughtful, Humble, Hardworking.
We don't really talk to each other, and what we always do was only to greet each other "Hello" or "Goodbye", say "Hi" when we meet in the alley, "How/When are you going back?"  like any other ordinary classmates whenever we have class, and that's all, until some talk with you someday which I don't remember when, except for you were late for BS class and I skipped the class.
You are unique in your very own way. I know that you have your own temper, and you did tell me that you don't really have a good temper, but you actually managed to treat everyone politely and humbly.
I remember that you said, this wasn't because of good temper, but IGGGNORE those that annoy you. I did take this as a good advice, and I see some effect on myself as well. You are indeed a comfortable guy to talk to. Thank you for being so understanding when I got injured and unable to participate the badminton game with you in the ATC Sports Carnival 2013. I had a good time playing badminton with you, as you are very much caring and supportive, and hope so I wasn't a terrible partner to you. *LOL*
I believe that your characteristics are going to lead you to success in the future. Humble is nice, but don't under estimate yourself. As the probably most charming guy in A-Level *LOLOL*, so far as what I know, you got loads of admirer HAHAHA.
See you in LL.B!

Tiew Kai Xiang
Funny, Sociable, Easygoing, Gentleman.
I think that you are the most gentleman guy I've met so far, and you really understand girls' mind, sometimes even better than girls. Thank you for bullying Carol together HAHAHAHAHAHAHA.
You might be lame sometimes, but it's kinda interesting whenever you are around because of your characteristic. It's a kind of special charm that I don't know how to describe, but that's what makes you so sociable. You are easygoing to me, since you actually managed to talk to me, when I'm that kind of person, who don't really have the courage talk to people I'm not familiar with, especially guys.
To be honest, whenever you ask people to refill water for you, 50% of my mind was, just go and refill for you from the tap in the washroom LOL.
I sincerely wish you all the best for everything you do in the future. With your strong mind and intelligence, you are gonna succeed.
All the best!!


Peeps, thank you for making this journey so amazing. This is probably the happiest academic year to me since 2001, when most of the memories are happy and positive. I can still remember how we acted in law class, how we did presentation for LAN together, how we went through the revision period, and how we celebrated everyone's birthday. Both in AS and A2, we had meals together with looooonggggg tables, in Ben's and La Bodega.
Memories that you guys gave me are definitely gonna stay in my mind, and I will never forget all the important events we've been through together.
Thank you everyone for having each other's back in these 18 months, and I believe this will never be the end of our friendship. I appreciate each and everyone of you, as the most amazing bunch of friends I have.
For those who are leaving, wish you all the best. Remember to keep in touch, and don't forget us.
For those who are staying in ATC for LL.B, whether you are joining June or September, we will still meet each other, probably during revision, or in Part 1.
Till then, please take care of yourself and remember that we love each other.

Oscar Wilde once said,
"The burden of this world is too great for one man to bear, and the world's sorrow is too heavy for one heart to suffer."
and that's why we have each other.

"It's not the 'END', but 'AND'."

Tuesday, January 01, 2013

2013

新的一年,跨年夜和第一天都在温习当中度过。与其说我在读书,不如说我在背书…临时抱佛脚这种劣根性应该是永远改不掉的。

回顾2012,其实是一个没什么特别,却又不是太过普通的一年。说起来,我真的觉得每年都差不多一样,一开始觉得很漫长,度过了再去回忆,可能一整年里给自己印象最深刻的事情也就那么两三件。所以每一年对我而言,不是大坏就是普通。大好,仅仅是用来形容当中的一二而已。

一年到底,说得到的不多,失去的也不多。有些人进入生命里,有些人离开了。升学只能算是一种进度,唯一改变最大的,就是自己的个性。那种改变很抽象,就像其实我很沉默,却又不是所有人所认为的沉闷,我可以很疯,我也在某种程度上变得活跃,但这种抽象的改变,仅仅是因为我跟谁在一起相处。别人的以为,终究只是以为,有些事,有些人,你终究没有去了解,却用你的“以为“去为我这个人做了结论。

一如既往的一年,平淡普通总比大起大落好。一切平安顺利,健康开心比较重要。

Saturday, December 03, 2011

【前途&未来】

未来该选择什么科系,走什么路,
一路上,我很少听到第一句就鼓励的话,而是“那个很难读的啊···”
但是……有什么路是不难的?有谁天生什么都会的?

每个人都有自己想走的路,每个人找到目标的时间不同。
但是不管早或晚,只要是经过思考的,都值得去试。

人生美好的时间也就那么多。与其担心多用一次就少了一些,不如想着这一刻尽情挥霍,不管下一刻是否还有。至少,你在这一刻,得到的是最纯粹的快乐。

所以说,
人很多时候,是需要豁出去来决定做一件事情的。
需要一个很大的动力把自己往前推,跨过那条让自己犹豫的线。
跨越了,就会有一种完全不一样的感受。
勇敢地往前走,这样你才能说服自己,你做了正确的决定,要勇往直前。



试图说服自己,不要怀疑自己的可能性,因为我想要展翅高飞。

Sunday, April 25, 2010

随笔

        小時候,我以為世界上隻有兩種人,好人和壞人,好人會被世人稱揚,壞人會被唾棄。後來慢慢知道,好人有壞性格,壞人也有好性格,因此,用壞人好人來分類,並不恰當。

  再大一點,我認為事情可用對錯來劃分,人要做對的事情, 不要去選擇錯誤。但是後來又知道,同樣一件事情,從不同角度去看,就會衍生出不同願法,因此,世界上沒有絕對的對 或錯。

  世界那麼複雜,人心那麼難懂,對的事情當中有錯的成分, 錯的做法中有對的觀點。既然沒有絕對,是不是誰都不能 隨意下定判語,是不是人的行事再沒有固定準則,如果有準則, 那唯一的準則是不是取決於快樂?


或许是。

这个世界本来就很难懂。

不懂的事情,也没有必要刨根问底。

反正你从来都不会得到一个绝对正确的答案。